It’s a new dawn, and a new age for dating. Many are ready to throw the rule book out the window. While dating is less defined in this new era, and the lines have been slightly blurred. There are some rules we shouldn’t completely disregard.
1. Making the call.
- So you got her number. You lucky bastard. She doesn’t give it to just anyone. Why are you still only contacting her on social media? Facebook, Twitter, and Dating Apps will only get you so far. Take the romance off line. Men often say “The phone works both ways.” In the beginning, if you are truly interested in her, show some effort by calling, or texting first. She’s given you her number, use it.
2. Paying on the first date.
There are some exceptions to this rule. If she’s assertive enough to ask you out. She’ll pay the bill without hesitation. “Let’s meet up for drinks.” We have drinks with our friends, happy hour with our coworkers, and attend endless business meetings at bars, and pubs. Meeting up for drinks unless specified, is not a definitive date, and can lead to an awkward grey area. A clear sign a man is interested, if he asks to have dinner with you. It’s far more intimate than drinks, and requires some thought.
3. Easy with the flirtation.
Most women understand the art of leaving breadcrumbs. Just enough to peak one’s interest, but maintaining an air of mystery. A playful innuendo can sometimes lead to an off color remark, or seeing a little more of you than we’re ready for. Keep the conversation light. If you choose to be suggestive, at least be witty. Hold back from sending the full Monty until the time is right.
4. Giving her home court advantage.
It stands to reason in a city where you can have your laundry dropped off, wine delivered, and virtually any other service available 24/7, that one might become slightly complacent in regards to traveling outside their neighborhood. This was never more true than in New York City. A place so efficient, everything you need is right in your own borough. When you’re willing to travel and meet with her, it’s a good indication that you are considerate, and a gentlemen for accommodating her needs. A little effort goes along way.
5. Chivalry is dormant, not dead.
On any given day you can witness women on the city streets making way, and opening doors for men. But there is an unspoken code of conduct that old school gentlemen, and renaissance men alike, abide by. Walking on the outside of the street, opening the car door, and allowing her to order first. Even the position in which you are seated at the table has significance. Regardless how progressive a woman is, she’ll be sure to take note.
The most important thing a man can do is to make a woman feel special. As if no other woman exists but her. Having good manners, and being genuine will take you far. After all, we’re not asking you to go to the moon and back for us. Just maybe travel to Queens.