Category Archives: Dating

5 Things Men Can Do To Score A Second Date

It’s a new dawn, and a new age for dating. Many are ready to throw the rule book out the window. While dating is less defined in this new era, and the lines have been slightly blurred. There are some rules we shouldn’t completely disregard.

  1. Making the call.

    So you got her number. You lucky bastard. She doesn’t give it to just anyone. Why are you still only contacting her on social media? Facebook, Twitter, and Dating Apps will only get you so far. Take the romance off line. Men often say “The phone works both ways.” In the beginning, if you are truly interested in her, show some effort by calling, or texting first. She’s given you her number, use it.

 2. Paying on the first date.

There are some exceptions to this rule. If she’s assertive enough to ask you out. She’ll pay the bill without hesitation. “Let’s meet up for drinks.” We have drinks with our friends, happy hour with our coworkers, and attend endless business meetings at bars, and pubs. Meeting up for drinks unless specified, is not a definitive date, and can lead to an awkward grey area. A clear sign a man is interested, if he asks to have dinner with you. It’s far more intimate than drinks, and requires some thought.

3. Easy with the flirtation.

Most women understand the art of leaving breadcrumbs. Just enough to peak one’s interest, but maintaining an air of mystery. A playful innuendo can sometimes lead to an off color remark, or seeing a little more of you than we’re ready for. Keep the conversation light. If you choose to be suggestive, at least be witty. Hold back from sending the full Monty until the time is right.

4. Giving her home court advantage.

It stands to reason in a city where you can have your laundry dropped off, wine delivered, and virtually any other service available 24/7, that one might become slightly complacent in regards to traveling outside their neighborhood. This was never more true than in New York City.  A place so efficient, everything you need is right in your own borough. When you’re willing to travel and meet with her, it’s a good indication that you are considerate, and a gentlemen for accommodating her needs.  A little effort goes along way.

 5. Chivalry is dormant, not dead.

On any given day you can witness women on the city streets making way, and opening doors for men. But there is an unspoken code of conduct that old school gentlemen, and renaissance men alike, abide by.  Walking on the outside of the street, opening the car door, and allowing her to order first. Even the position in which you are seated at the table has significance. Regardless how progressive a woman is, she’ll be sure to take note.

The most important thing a man can do is to make a woman feel special. As if no other woman exists but her. Having good manners, and being genuine will take you far. After all, we’re not asking you to go to the moon and back for us. Just maybe travel to Queens.

Ten things men can learn from 50 Shades of Grey

The highly anticipated film is finally here. While critics and fans can’t seem to agree, whether the movie is a hit, or a miss. It has opened a genuine dialogue between men and women. Much of the sentiment evokes eye rolling, and the mention of the character’s wealth, as the reason he’s captured our adoration. However, nothing could be farther from the truth, of the story that has compelled women everywhere to swoon.

1. Foreplay,  It’s often underrated, and yet it’s an essential part of love making. Taking extra care to savor each moment. There is something to be said about the build up, and the anticipation of what is to come

2.Chivalry,  A kind gesture. Women adore being led into a room while his hand is placed on the small of their back. Long after they marry, he continues to open the passenger door, and pull out her chair .

3. Sex Drive,  He wants her, again and again. Everyday, and every night. Even if it means he’ll lose precious sleep. He burns with desire for  her.

4.  Complexities,  He is not one dimensional. By being unpredictable, and full of surprises. He’s able to keep her on her toes.

5.  Intelligence,  His wit is disarming. The way to any woman’s heart is through her head. Foreplay, always begins in the mind.  Seek to stimulate her intellectually first, and everything else will follow suit.

6.  Driven/Decisive,  He goes after what he wants. Sets goals, and obtains them. He’s not fickle in his thoughts, beliefs, or pursuits.

7.  He Desires Only Her,  This is perhaps one of the sexiest qualities a man can have. Women constantly throw themselves at him. But he only desires her. He seeks to possess her mind, body, and soul. He is completely unwavering in his love for her.

8.  He Needs Her,  She is his lifeline, and his talisman. This appeals to women on a molecular level. Wanting to save the world is not a quality only specific to men.

9.  Being Cherished,  He tells her at every turn just how beautiful she is. How much he adores her. It’s as if he’s been searching for her all his life. And she is never left to wonder if he appreciates her.

10.  Family,  He works tirelessly to protect his family. He will stop at nothing to keep them safe. Even if it means risking his own health, and well being.

Perhaps the best thing about the story, is the fact that some couples are trying new things as a result. Not all men will aspire to be like Christian Grey. Of course, it’s important to bear in mind this character is a work of fiction. But aren’t all the best men anyway?


Deal or no deal

Most people have a set of rules when dating, known as “deal breakers.
Politics, religion, and values often come into play. But what about the quirky
habits of someone we like that tend to drive us crazy? What are you willing
tolerate, and what are your strange deal breakers?

I once dated a guy who insisted the toilet tissue being properly placed
to roll over, rather than under. I found it to be an odd request considering
he had never restocked the tissue paper to it’s rightful place on the roll.
Another man I dated became annoyed with my lipstick free Sunday’s.
It was the one day a week I opted not to wear makeup. Meanwhile, he was
found on more than one occasion cleaning the floor with the sponge used for dishes.
The same man was also notorious for cutting his toenails in bed.
I heard from a friend who was excited to go out with a beautiful
girl, who happened to be a Forensic Pathologist. The date was going well.
They had perfect chemistry. At the end of the night , she went in for a kiss.
The stench proved to be too much. He later described it as the kiss of death.
An occupational hazard perhaps.

Sometimes relationships are not all they’re cracked up to be.
You have to take the good with the bad. Keep an open mind.
Be realistic with your expectations. Because the bed of roses you hope for,
may turn out to be toenails.

Best reasons to avoid Cuffing Season

Summer is officially over. The air is crisp.
Pumpkin Ales are back, and football is on every channel.
This can only mean one thing.
Cuffing Season is upon us.
Here are a few reasons to avoid this dreaded time of year.

1. No one will be there to judge you when you decide to pour whiskey into
your hot cocoa. Even if it’s only eleven am.
2. Skip a day of leg shaving. Now you have an excuse to go a day,
or five, without having to shave. After all, hair keeps you warm in the Winter.
3. Pretending to love Winter sports. I like football as much as the next girl,
especially Super Bowl parties. But Ice Fishing, Curling, and Slalom? Not so much.
4. Lowering the standard. Every single girl feels the pangs of wanting that special
someone to go pumpkin picking with, and decorating for the holidays. But trust me,
the homeless guy on the six train does not want to go caroling with you.
5. Hearing “Babe, last night you drank too much.” Multiple house parties,
office parties, and family gatherings. Once in a while a girl is bound to drink a little too much.
Especially if you’re the type who would rather drink your calories than eat them.
At least in the company of your girlfriends, they won’t judge you. And if they are true
friends, they won’t Instagram or Facebook that crazy shit either.
6. Slutty kisses. Consider being single on New Year’s Eve , like going stag
to the prom. I mean, you look great, and you’re available. Believe it or not,
you’re a hot commodity. Make it fun by selecting a “few” random hot guys to plant
a kiss on. Just be sure to peep that he is single first. Nobody wants to ring
in the New Year by getting punched in the face!

Have fun, and take chances. Enjoy the leaves changing, the fuzzy mittens,
and the spiked hot chocolate. Most importantly, remember Cuffing Season won’t
last forever. Summer is always right around the corner.