Ten things men can learn from 50 Shades of Grey

The highly anticipated film is finally here. While critics and fans can’t seem to agree, whether the movie is a hit, or a miss. It has opened a genuine dialogue between men and women. Much of the sentiment evokes eye rolling, and the mention of the character’s wealth, as the reason he’s captured our adoration. However, nothing could be farther from the truth, of the story that has compelled women everywhere to swoon.

1. Foreplay,  It’s often underrated, and yet it’s an essential part of love making. Taking extra care to savor each moment. There is something to be said about the build up, and the anticipation of what is to come

2.Chivalry,  A kind gesture. Women adore being led into a room while his hand is placed on the small of their back. Long after they marry, he continues to open the passenger door, and pull out her chair .

3. Sex Drive,  He wants her, again and again. Everyday, and every night. Even if it means he’ll lose precious sleep. He burns with desire for  her.

4.  Complexities,  He is not one dimensional. By being unpredictable, and full of surprises. He’s able to keep her on her toes.

5.  Intelligence,  His wit is disarming. The way to any woman’s heart is through her head. Foreplay, always begins in the mind.  Seek to stimulate her intellectually first, and everything else will follow suit.

6.  Driven/Decisive,  He goes after what he wants. Sets goals, and obtains them. He’s not fickle in his thoughts, beliefs, or pursuits.

7.  He Desires Only Her,  This is perhaps one of the sexiest qualities a man can have. Women constantly throw themselves at him. But he only desires her. He seeks to possess her mind, body, and soul. He is completely unwavering in his love for her.

8.  He Needs Her,  She is his lifeline, and his talisman. This appeals to women on a molecular level. Wanting to save the world is not a quality only specific to men.

9.  Being Cherished,  He tells her at every turn just how beautiful she is. How much he adores her. It’s as if he’s been searching for her all his life. And she is never left to wonder if he appreciates her.

10.  Family,  He works tirelessly to protect his family. He will stop at nothing to keep them safe. Even if it means risking his own health, and well being.

Perhaps the best thing about the story, is the fact that some couples are trying new things as a result. Not all men will aspire to be like Christian Grey. Of course, it’s important to bear in mind this character is a work of fiction. But aren’t all the best men anyway?


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